Planning a wedding is very technical. It’s somewhat like choreographing a dance. There are time frames to think about, vendors to book, locations to choose, clothing, flowers and music. The list goes on. For brides who are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, planning a temple wedding is no different. There are things you won’t need to think about but there are other aspects that are very unique to temple weddings.
So let’s start at the very beginning. He asked, you answered and now you’re riding the wave of excitement that comes just after the proposal. Pretty quickly you will start making important decisions in regards to your big day. On average, LDS engagements are a lot shorter than those outside of the church, lasting about four to six months. Not to say that your engagement can’t be longer or shorter than that, but that is the typical time frame. What most brides take one to two years to plan you will be doing in a matter of months. Feeling the pressure? Please don’t! Just remember you don’t have to worry about a lot of the same details that are important in weddings outside the temple. You probably already know which temple you want to be sealed in. You don’t have to worry about who will officiate, decorations or seating for the ceremony. All these details are taken care of. So breathe a sigh of relief.
One of the hardest decisions you will have to make will be your wedding date. You’re sure to get a lot of outside pressure about the date you choose. Your date isn’t going to work for everyone. Just remember that it’s your wedding and as long as your parents are there, you should pick what ever day works for you. Don’t worry so much about uncle so and so and cousin you know who. Here are a few things to remember when choosing a date and reserving the temple: You can reserve the temple three months in advance and as little as one week. If you want to get married on a Saturday anytime in the summer or when school is out, you are most likely not going to be alone. Saturdays during the months of May through August tend to be extremely busy. Especially in June. Which means you may have to wait your turn for certain photo spots and you will need to stay on a tight schedule to not interfere with other brides. If you absolutely must be a June bride, then possibly consider a different day of the week such as a Thursday or Friday. Just remember the temple is closed on Mondays. You can usually look online to see if there are any other closures such a temple cleaning or scheduled maintenance. If you don’t care which season you want to be married in, then maybe wait a couple months and get married in the fall. Fall weddings are beautiful and the weather is generally much more comfortable.
When choosing a time in which you wish to reserve the temple, there are a few things to consider. You will need to think about when and where the reception will be held. Make sure there is adequate time to get from the temple to the reception venue. How long will it take to get from point A to point B? Make sure you plan accordingly. From the time your sealing starts, until the time you come out of the temple, you will almost always be looking at about an hour. If you choose to get sealed in the morning and your reception isn’t until later in the evening, consider having a luncheon for those guests who came from out of town and are attending both the temple ceremony and the reception. Some brides have very close relatives who aren’t members of the church and wish to have a ring ceremony to include these loved ones. If this is something you will be having, I would suggest doing it just prior to the reception at the same venue. These are all things to consider before calling the temple and reserving your day and time.
Once you’ve decided on the temple you wish to be married in for time and all eternity and you’ve chosen a date and time, you will want to meet with your Bishop. He can guide and direct you in what steps you need to take. If you haven’t been through the temple to receive your endowment you will need to do so. Some brides choose to receive their endowment as soon as they can. Many brides will go through the Temple for the first time a few days before being sealed. It is encouraged to take a temple prep class. This is something not everyone participates in, however it might be something you wish to consider as it will give you more of an understanding of what you are about to experience. Your Bishop will be your biggest source of guidance as you are planning your temple wedding.
The best piece of advice that any Latter Day Saint bride can get is to focus on the covenants you will be making in the temple. It’s so easy to get caught up in the planning process and forget about the wonderful commitment you are making with your fiancé and your Heavenly Father. The details of your wedding day are important, but the temple sealing is the most important aspect of the day, just as the ceremony is to a civil wedding. Don’t get so wrapped up in the details that you forget about the spirit of the day.
By Baily Leclerc, Photos by Malea Ellett
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