Recently I had a conversation with a newly engaged friend of mine about the planning of her wedding. She expressed some interest in hiring a mutual acquaintance that is a wedding planner. Being very familiar with this particular wedding planner and her work I knew that she usually likes to plan weddings around a certain theme. So I asked the bride if she was going to have a theme for her big day. Her response? No. She said, “I thought I would just plan a wedding”.
A current trend in weddings right now is planning the wedding to go along with a particular theme that reflects the interests and personalities of the bride and groom. Such as a travel themed wedding or a love bird wedding theme. These weddings can be creative and unique, although it’s really easy to get caught up in a theme and loose focus of what is important on this very special day. Themes are trendy, they push the envelope, and they set your wedding apart from the crowd. However there is something to be said about planning a classic traditional wedding. The type of wedding that stands the test of time. One that when you pull out your wedding album decades later you can still say that you would make all the same choices. Traditional does not mean boring by any means. It means elegant, classy and chic. Think Princess Grace of Monaco. Grace Kelly married in 1956 to Prince Rainier III. Her wedding is looked upon as one of the most iconic weddings to date even inspiring the most recent royal wedding. From the dress to the cake, this wedding has stood the test of time. What bride wouldn’t want to feel like Grace Kelly on her wedding day?
It is so tempting as a bride to want to go along with all the current trends in wedding design. I understand, as I was once a bride myself. I would venture to guess that most brides-to-be would consider themselves the non-traditional type. Right now I want to make a case for the classics. I’ve been a guest at my fair share of weddings over the years. Most of those weddings (along with my own) I would say fall under the non-traditional category with the exception of a few. The wedding that still stands out in my mind as being the most incredible was a very traditional wedding. No themes. No real trends that I can pin point. Just beautiful classic choices that created an elegant romantic feel. It was impeccably planned down to the very smallest detail. It almost didn’t feel real. Like I was living in a scene from a movie. Every detail was thoughtful and perfect. By being traditional it actually stood out from the rest. It was in fact more unique than all the non-traditional weddings I had attended. If you want to go against the grain then I say go for the classics. There are so many people trying to be different that it really isn’t all that unique anymore.
Themes and trends can be fun but they can also limit you. Making it harder for you to plan. Once you’ve chosen a theme every detail will now have to be planned with that theme in mind. If you stray from the theme your wedding will look disjointed and sloppy. If you throw too many trendy items into your day it can end up being way over the top. You have to be cautious about editing your decisions so that your wedding doesn’t go overboard. Twenty years down the road you don’t want to look back at your photos and think “Wow that cake is so 2014.” Or “How funny I don’t even like (enter theme here) anymore”. It’s very tricky to pull off a theme and not have it look cheesy. Don’t limit yourself with one if you can’t execute it perfectly. Instead choose classics that open up your options and allow you have more choices.
So now that you’ve decided to forego the trendy for the timeless here are a few tips to think about while you forge ahead with your planning. When choosing a venue find a location with some history behind it. A historic Bed and Breakfast, a museum or a National Park would all be really great options. When choosing a color scheme don’t go too bold. Choose two or three colors and keep the palette subtle. Cream, light pink and gold would be a pretty feminine choice. Pink, peach and white is perfect for a spring wedding. Black and white is always a very elegant and chic option. Even an all white wedding would be a classic choice. Classic wedding flowers always include roses. They come in a wide variety, are available year round and will hold up well throughout the day and into the night. Not to mention they are very symbolic of romance and love. Which is what your day is all about. Other options would include: peonies, hydrangeas, sweet peas and tulips. Think about using classic black and white in your decorating choices. Also choose letterpress & hand calligraphy for your paper elements.
When trying on dresses keep in mind that a traditional wedding is not the place for mermaid style or high-low hemlines. Choose elegant silhouettes that are universally flattering. Lace is always a good idea. As for your hair go with a classic up do such as a soft chignon. Or if you want to wear it down make sure it’s curled in loose soft waves. The key word with both options is soft. Make up should also be soft and natural. The groom should wear a tuxedo or a very well fitting suit. He should try to be clean-shaven. If facial hair is a must then at least keep it to a minimum and very neatly trimmed.
Think about your wedding. Think about how you want your day to be remembered. You want to be able to think back to this important day and remember how much love was felt between you. Don’t let the current trends of our time cloud that expression of love between one another. Choose a wedding that celebrates your devotion for one another. Not a wedding that celebrates your mutual love of sports or movies. Celebrate your romance. Not a theme. Choose classics that stand the test of time and reflect your love for each other. You really can’t go wrong with a refined traditional wedding.
Table Design & Styling-Events by LMG
Photography- Rebekah Westover Photography
Cake & Macarons- Layers cake
Floral- Tinge Floral
Gown & Beaded Belt- Alta Moda Bridal
Models- Keely King (Bride) Phillip Istomin (Groom)
Hair & Make Up- Lunatic Fringe Salon
Stationery- Ann Elizabeth Custom Design & Printing
Ring- Brooks Jeweler
Location- Jessica Peterson Photo Studio
Linens- Creative Coverings
Rentals- RSVP Rentals
Black Champagne Flutes- Z Gallerie