A Groove Will Make You Move
By James Ramsi
What to do about the music? There’s always plugging in the iPod into the auxiliary jack and letting your brother-in-law go at it. Perhaps there’s something ironically endearing about the sound of that little wheel clicking as he thumbs through your collection of Dave Matthews albums.
On the other end, you could shoot for the moon and hire your dream act. Though of course, every band has a price. For example, the Niemen Marcus catalog offers an hour-and-a-half performance by Elton John for a cool $1.5 million. If that’s a stretch, perhaps your roommate’s band, will play a three hour set for two pepperoni pizzas and a room at the Courtyard Marriot in St. George.
But for most people, you’ll want to find the happy median of wedding music, something between rashness and cowardice, between excess and depravity. Whether you decide on a band or a DJ, the important thing is to make sure it’s a personal experience. That is, it’s your wedding, not their show. With the accessibility of music technology having expanded so much over the past decade, you probably have a personal connection to someone who can play music and also say something on the microphone from time to time that’ll make people smile. Most likely, a professional DJ will be the best fit, since they tend to have more wedding experience and their fees should be lower since it’s just one person, with a limited amount of equipment. Still, also having an experienced band, especially one you’re familiar with, makes for a fun, interactive experience. Be sure to go for a professional act that comes well recommended. If you’re scouring the Craigslist page for “Female Seeking Wedding DJ”, you may want to reevaluate some things. Because the DJ/MC is the person whose job it is to make the event what it’s supposed to be- a celebration of your relationship and love for one another. The music should only be a factor to the extent that it keeps things focused in the right direction.
From start to finish, consider the following:
Live music during the procession will affect the emotional vibe of the ceremony. A nice acoustic guitar, a violin, or even a whole orchestra will compliment the maturity and significance of the situation.
Always use a professional Dj for your ceremony sound. Your guest have traveled from all over to be part of this special time. They want to hear every single word. The right music and sound duo make all the difference in pulling your event together
Come the reception, it’s imperative that your first dance is filled with emotion. You want a song that’s sentimental and unique to your relationship. Googling the “top 10 first dance songs” might not have the same effect. You want everyone focused on the genuine love between you and your spouse- when the song begins, all conversation in the room should immediately stop. The best way to make that happen is with a moving first dance. The first dance is often the first moment you will have to really enjoy each others company as a married couple. Take advantage of the time, cherish each others embrace, and don’t ruin the moment with meaningless conversation.
That said, don’t be afraid to pump up the jam immediately after. You want to get everyone dancing before people start to leave. However, when I say “jam”, I mean David Bowie’s “Let’s Dance”, or even Talking Heads’ “Wild Wild Life”. I’m guessing the top five club bangers on iTunes these days don’t exactly speak to a celebration of monogamy. If your mother-in-law doesn’t feel comfortable dancing to the playlist, then neither should you. If being tasteful means pretending you’re from two generations ago, so be it. This should all be intuitive. The music should be exciting but not discomforting. The band or DJ should have a personal touch. We’re talking about the soundtrack to one of the most important days of your life, you’re making a commitment to the one you truly love. The music choices should only enhance that. This is your wedding, all eyes will be on you. If your shaking it on the dance floor, everyone else will too, and the celebration will follow!