Creating and planning the perfect wedding or event takes an innate sense of balance. It is a lot like baking a soufflé. I don’t know how many of our readers have ever attempted such a thing, but in most cases, it can’t just be thrown together last minute, using whatever you have lying around without experiencing a disastrous outcome. A wedding is the ultimate event and no matter its size or budget, it should be treated as such. For better or worse, you will always remember your wedding day. Whether you have been dreaming of it since you were little or casually think about it from time to time, you want it to be an unforgettable day for all the right reasons. So like a soufflé, it is important that you use quality ingredients, follow a recipe, keep a watchful eye on it, and be careful not to over bake it. Having a classically trained chef in your corner always helps.
Just like in cooking and baking, there is a recipe for creating the perfect event.
If I could break down a stylish design into the simplest formula, it would be
color + pattern + texture.
Having the right combination and balance of the three will make your style taste buds sing with pure bliss.
Whether you are the Bride, Groom, Mother or best friend twice removed, one of the first questions people will begin to ask is “what are your colors?” Seems like it should be a simple question, but in reality it can be one of the hardest decisions you will make. Event colors will set the tone, theme and feel of your event. They will be used
and referred to throughout the planning process so it is a good idea to choose ones you are incredibly fond of. There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to combining colors for your event. In elementary school you are taught to pair primary colors with secondary colors or complementary colors, but when it comes to event planning there are many scenarios where pairing colors that you wouldn’t traditionally put together can be quite stunning. Websites like, stylemepretty.com, greylikesweddings.com and of course pinterest.com are just a few that are helpful when planning an event but one of my very favorite online sources when shopping for a color palette is theperfectpalette.com. They have a huge collection of color pairings and practical applications of those colors. It is worth spending an hour or two (or ten!) perusing their vast library when deciding on “your colors”. As a precaution, I will say to be aware of what colors are in-style and in-season nearing your event. Choosing at least one or two colors that are somewhat popular will save you time, money and stress. You may have your heart set on emerald green bridesmaids’ dresses, but if your wedding is in the spring, deep tones and fall colors are going to be hard to come by.
Everywhere you look these days, a new trendy pattern is popping up on everything from clothing to furniture, home décor and especially weddings. Bringing a pattern into your event is a perfect way to convey the tone and theme you want to impress upon your guests. As with colors, patterns should be something you and your soon to be are drawn to. If you don’t enjoy polka-dots on a daily basis, using them for your event may not be the best idea. Find a pattern that speaks to you, moves your soul, something that you could look at forever and still be excited by. Be wary of what I like to call “SUPER TRENDY” patterns. Even if you feel as though you will be the first to use it for a wedding, they won’t be going away anytime soon and seeing your wedding pattern on everything from toddler clothes to lunchboxes might leave a sour taste in your mouth and make you regret using it for your wedding day. If you just can’t help yourself and have an overwhelming need to use this year’s “It” pattern, be savvy about how and where you use it. Dressing your bridal party in it head to toe may not be a good idea, but a bit of it on your cake or beautifully patterned invitations or envelope liners can be grand areas to introduce your pattern without going over the top. How do you find a pattern that is beautiful, unique to you and your soon-to-be you ask? There are many ways, but to name a few, start with your local fabric store. Taking your fiancé one afternoon to wander the Narnia-like aisles of a fabric store can be a great adventure, and in some cases an eye-opening experience. See what you are both drawn to. Do you find yourselves reaching for bold or monochromatic patterns? Are you attracted to an ombre effect or more traditional patterns? Whatever you do, it is wise to look for simple, under-complicated patterns that are versatile and paint a lovely image in your heads of how stunning the landscape of your wedding or event could be.
Another option for finding a pattern that is unique is to look in your own back yard. Just like that box of deliciously secret family recipes, patterns can be handed down from generation to generation so look to your heritage when choosing a pattern for your event. Family history on both sides of the tree can be a great resource for unique patterns. Even a simple family heirloom can inspire you. A family tartan, antique vase or tapestry, generational handmade quilt or that coveted piece of heirloom furniture at Grandmas house can easily inspire you and translate your family history into gorgeous colors and patterns. Not only will your family be touched by your inspiration, but using something from your heritage will keep the pattern unique to your event and close to your heart for years to come.
Using the right textures can help make your wedding or event an unforgettable experience for your guests. Unlike colors and patterns, which are often more specific to shades, sizes and scale, textures play more of a supporting role in decorating and can be comprised of one particular line of thinking or go for more of an “everything but the kitchen sink” type of situation.
Think about what your everyday style is and the textures you use for the decorating will fall into place. Are you a classically traditional girl? A sparkles and pearls girl? Are you an outdoorsy and natural girl? Or even a leather and lace girl? Whatever type of girl you are… go with it. There is nothing worse than showing up to an event, and not “seeing” the personality of the bride or groom anywhere in it. Once you find your style, begin looking around your everyday life for those, “this is so me” types of items and textures and then talk with your decorator about how to include them in the design of the event. Texture is an area that you and your wedding planner can really go all-out with, without going over the top. Think about using a variety of vintage vessels for your floral centerpieces and then dressing them up with delicious tree branches, pods, berries or fall leaves. Get your DIY hands dirty and hand-dye muslin table runners or paper lanterns to hang over the guest tables. Create intimate seating using eclectic pieces of furniture and dress them up with throw pillows in the fabulous patterned fabric you chose. Display family heirlooms, handmade quilts in oversized trunks, framed pictures or china in small groupings throughout your event. All of these small touches will personalize your event and give your guests a glimpse into your past, present and future as you build a life together.
Earlier I mentioned having a “classically trained chef” in your corner, and in the case of wedding planning, that crucial person would be known as your wedding planner. I can’t stress enough the importance of having a wedding planner. Having a professional wedding planner can save you time, stress and money when planning and executing an event. They have years of experience, connections in the wedding industry and the knowhow to bring a dreamlike event to life. They can oversee the big details as well as the small (but important) ones. They will be able to suggest colors, patterns and textures that will work well together and create an aesthetically pleasing environment for your guests. A professional wedding planner can work with a multitude of budgets and help keep you on track when unexpected things arise. Best of all, when the big day is finally here, they make it possible for you, the groom, your parents, bridal party, and family and friends to enjoy the day and not be running around with all of the last minute bits and pieces. They can handle the set up and take down of the decorations and manage all of the different wedding vendors to make sure that a timeline is in place and stuck to for a seamlessly enjoyable day. Just like baking a soufflé, having a trained professional in your corner can make the task of planning a wedding deliciously sweet and not a recipe for disaster.
Like they say, for better or worse, you will always remember your wedding day. Make sure that you remember it for all the good reasons and you will look back at those cherished photographs and wedding videos with no regrets, just the treasured memory of how amazing your wedding day was! And with the recipe or formula of Color + Pattern + Texture in hand and wedding professionals by your side you are ready to create a memorable event that will symbolize your new life together as man and wife.
Floral – Bloomers
Design – Forevermore Events
Photos- Gideon Photography
Stationery/Paper details – Momental Designs
Cake- Sweet cakes by Karen
Hair & Makeup/Headpiece – Julie Thomas
Jewelry/Props – MS Turques
Dress – BHLDN
Video – NP Films
Models- Molly Steele & Joseph Fogarty