Things I wish I had Known
By Lindsey Murphy, Photos by Gideon Photo
One subject I am very passionate about is educating brides, especially to avoid regrets. It pains me to know that brides have regrets about their wedding because it is an important aspect of life that should never include regrets. That’s why I am so excited to bring you “What I wish I would have known”, an opportunity to take a look into the top five regrets of brides.
I have spent more time researching this subject than any other in my position within the wedding industry. I want to help others avoid these continued displeasures on such an important and memorable day. After reading, research, comparing top regrets from other similar articles and face to face interviews, I feel very strongly that I am bringing soon-to-be brides some very helpful information so that you to are not left saying “I wish I would have known”.
You get what you pay for! After spending years in the wedding industry, it’s clear to me that the phrase “you get what you pay for” is very much present and accurate. The most sought after vendor’s charge more and they are sought after for a reason. Brides regret trying to save money on the bigger aspects of their wedding like the photographer and the cake. Brides have hired family members to take on these big roles or have tried to skimp in these areas to save money, which is understandable. But it comes with unfortunate dissatisfaction that can cause many problems.
Take time to soak it all in. It’s no secret that brides miss out on a lot of their own wedding. Some don’t even have time to eat. They spend thousands of dollars on their wedding and can spend up to a year planning it, but don’t get to experience it. I have asked this question before, who is the wedding for? Be sure to schedule in time (or demand time) to soak it all in with your fiancé.
Hire a videographer! Photography is such an important part of the wedding. A photo is worth a thousand words, it’s true. You can spend the rest of your life reliving your wedding by looking back at the photos captured. However, hearing the joy in friends and family’s voices and hearing the vows again is priceless. For all those reasons and more, wedding videos are becoming more and more popular, so much so that brides regret not hiring a videographer for their special day. Be sure that both the photographer and videographer are there until the end of the night. You won’t want to miss a thing!
Hire a Planner! Brides tend to take on the entire wedding planning and day-of coordination by themselves. It could be the DIY trend, trying to save money, the thought of giving up control or all of the above. One thing is for sure, brides end up regretting not hiring a planner and day-of coordinator. We always suggest not skimping in this area and hiring a planner because of all of the many benefits and stress relieving that planners provide brides. From consultations and day-of coordinating to full event planning, planners have different packages to fit every bride’s wants and needs, even those creative DIYers. If you’re tight on money and can’t go with full event planning, you should at least visit the idea of day-of coordinating. I have heard plenty of horror stories surrounding the scheduling and coordinating of the ceremony and reception. Coordinating the schedule, guests and vendors is certainly not something you or your family need to be worrying about. You just want to be able to sit back, relax, and be able to enjoy the day with family and friends.
Planning the wedding with others in mind. Undoubtedly the most common regret among brides is the fact that they planned their wedding around others and others expectations. They would have done things their way. It’s important to remember that this is your wedding and you need to do what makes you and your fiancé happy. It’s easy to be persuaded and it’s easy to want to make everyone else happy, especially the parents. Always stay true to yourself, do research before planning and communicate your wants and needs.
Just as I did research to bring you this information, you should as well when planning your wedding. Being pro-active rather than reactive will benefit you tremendously the day of and prevent regrets for years to come. I hope this helps you and yours in your planning endeavors as it’s a subject that is truly important to me.
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